Love & Marriage: Blow His Mind (Part 1)

“Giving great sex is very empowering.” Fellatio is not simply a favor; it is the opportunity to perform for your lover! To put on a show, to tantalize, to dominate even! Everyone’s end goals in the bedroom are different. One of mine is to feel like I put it down and performing a masterful blow job is a big part of that. I don’t feel used when I’m done, I feel like I’ve been showing off! Is it my favorite thing to do in the bedroom? No, but I get a thrill from knowing I did a good job at it and seeing the effect I can have on a man.
1.Dirty Talking: This is a great way of eliciting consent from your partner for the things you want to do.

2.Use Your Hands: This is perhaps the most important thing to remember! A blow job is not all about the mouth…to do it well, you need to alternate hand action with mouth action. This also keeps both parts of your body from getting tired.

3.Experiment, But Not TOO Much: Try new things and when you find what he likes, stick to them for a while and let him enjoy. Don’t try all 359 new tongue tricks you read about in one sitting. It’s overwhelming and ineffective. Too much switching up keeps you further and further away from the end goal…an orgasm.

4.Be The Eye Candy: Much of the excitement from the blow job comes from what he is seeing…so give him something to look at! Make eye contact, look like you are enjoying your work…think about how enthusiastic the ladies look in porn. If you appear to be tired or bored, no matter how good what you are doing feels, your lack of enthusiasm takes a toll…and is probably prolonging the end goal, which is gonna make you even more tired or bored.

5.Ask The Owner: While visual cues are important (i.e. if he looks happy, he probably is), it’s important that you communicate verbally as well. Keep your inquiries simple: “Do you like this?” “How does that feel?” “What do you want me to do now?”

More tips in my next column, ladies and gents! And if you have some specific questions about performing mind-blowing mouth jobs…please don’t hesitate to ask them below!

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